Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Difference of Opinion....


A young man married a girl but from the beginning of the marriage, he found that his wife had never approved what he had proposed or done.... She used to propose her own ways of doing and thus living the life.... He wanted to be straight forward, call ‘a spade a spade’ and thus express himself leading a simple life..... He never liked show off and living in luxury..... And he loved his freedom and wanted to do something special in life..... But after marriage, he felt that he was chained and was unable to do what he liked with his spouse's concurrence.... He was totally unhappy thus....

During one of those days, he happened to meet a distant elderly Relative who was all the time considered to be learned and lovable.... All people known to him had a deep faith in him as a man who would be a friend to them in distress.... The gentleman earned that popularity through his good deeds and timely help.... Moreover, he was totally clear in his actions and thus many used to look for his advice....

The young man could easily explain to the elderly Relative his problem and after narrating the same, he sincerely expected from him an answer on how to put up with the issue and be happy in life....

The elderly Relative gave a patient hearing, paused, subsequently patted the young man and said, “My dear, it is crystal clear from what you have told me that you and your wife have the difference of opinion.... May be she is wrong from your point of view and I too may agree at this point of time that what you say may be more correct.... But here having opened up the subject, I would like to ask you one simple question.... 


A Saint always believes in the Truth, “Brahma Satyaṃ jagat mithyā” meaning 'God is all; this earthly life is Nul!'  How much at this instance, we both can understand this one hundred percent, subsequently say ‘OK’ to it and start living our life in that way?  In case we do that way, it surely becomes an artificial life for both of us.... And we always feel that our level of understanding the life is the right.... Do you mean to say that the Great Men of the Earth said a wrong thing?  Those Great Men themselves never interfered with our lives and in fact, they all the time helped us to lead our own lives in a better way....

This way seen, what your wife says is correct for her and further she sincerely believes the same.... She is thus expressing herself in a natural way and she can never copy you here.... As long as she is leading a life within the limits of law and is following all safety norms there most of which are generally overlapped with legal responsibilities, she is not under any obligation to listen to some one and mould herself except as per her own wish and will.... 

Here, as a man of better understanding, you should start taking care of her in all as per your bounden duties known to you, make her happy and in turn you be happy.... Leaving this Sacred Duty, you should never think of your own way of doing things not bothering for her, even if you claim simplicity in your way of life!"

While departing, the elderly smiled and quipped, "In fact, the 'Real Simplicity' here truly lies in such actions alone where in you stop bothering for your requirements and look for your spouse's needs as they are without asking for a modification there!" 

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